Originally Posted by EleGirl
You have rejected every suggestion posted to you on all of your threads. So why keep asking. You have your own plan... enable the affair, do the 180, and go on vacation by yourself this summer.
So go with your plan. Maybe it will defy all of the norms of how to deal with the situation.. most likely you will continue to be in an open marriage... or end up divorced.
I wouldn't say I have rejected every suggestion--doing the 180 was actually one of the things I have been advised on TAM to do.
I appreciate all of the input, even the suggestions for which, after consideration, I feel are not appropriate for my own circumstances. I am one of those people who like to have as broad and rounded view as possible before making a life-changing decision.
Apart from TAM, I have also been speaking to 2 different counsellors and looking at the sections on infidelity in Michele Weiner-Davis's Divorce-Remedy which advise doing a 180/LRT.
I hoped I would be able to get some guidance from others who had been in (and successfully gotten through) similar situations that would help. Although she's now taking a break from TAM, I've found DaisyGirl41's posts and replies particularly helpful.
I am completely new to any kind of Forum so am not completely clued-up on any issues around starting multiple threads. When I first posted, I wasn't 100% my H was having an A.