| | Re: Need advice for how to approach wife
She is in an emotional affair at the very least with this man and using the toxic friend as a cover.
Do the text snooping according to what the folks here tell you to do. If I were you, next time you know she is going out, trade cars with a friend and follow her. See where she goes.
Take pics, gather evidence from texts and e-mail, scrub her computer of ever bit of info you can. Don't make a move until you have concrete proof she is cheating. Then confront... and be ready to show her the door.