Originally Posted by speaksoftly
I'm going to schedule marriage counseling and bring up the history within that context and ask her to explain I think. Does that sound reasonable?
sorry if I missed something--has marriage counseling been broached before? What was her reaction if so?
If you haven't brought up counseling before, and you plan to talk about it soon, I'd be curious to see how she responds.
I would not go to all the trouble to have counseling and then fail to bring up the long-term weirdness about hiding the phone and the computer. I think it is the main issue that has given you so much anxiety all this time, and you deserve some explanation for it. A counselor is also going to find her behavior odd and should be able to help you detect whether her answers are truthful, or whether there is more to it than she is willing to say.