mollyL

Your husband wrote you a lovely, consoling letter with some tender offers that address exactly what you had issues with; my question, then, is shouldn't you be communicating with him, instead of of finding more things that make you angry? You must understand how hard it is to be the spouse of someone chronically ill; it is horrible. Especially with a lack of diagnosis, and your anger and fear about it. Men want to fix things, they want to be the strong hero, and with all this mystery regarding your health he has to feel impotent and a failure, not having a metaphoric dragon to slay for you. You need to turn down the venom and talk to him as your husband, not the guy who in your estimation has made all the wrong decisions and made your life hell. I recommend counseling for you, and the sooner the better. You need to learn some ways to deal with your problems. Also, a counselor could probably give a physician invaluable help in finding out what exactly is wrong with your health.