wickedlittletown

I think your post may be, naturally biased towards yourself. I think when we are explaining an issue with a spouse we just naturally leave out our own faults. I agree with the posts above. I am sure that over the 10 years you have both made mistakes in your relationship to bring it to where it is now. She may be frustrated with you and you need to start making some changes, as well as her... I can agree that her reaction was very hurtful to you. Although you have to try to see it from her perspective. She could have reacted the same if she was 'guilty' or 'not guilty'. Defensive. Everyone is defensive when they are accused of something like this. You should try approaching her without pointing a finger. Just tell her exactly how you are feeling. It is okay to cry. That is not a mistake. It just shows how much you love her. Hopefully she can see that. Maybe mention to her that you are only this upset because of how much you love her... Good luck.