Well, I have an issue that I don;t know how to figure out before I comepletly destroy my marriage. I have been with my husband 13 years- 4 of it married. He has been complaing for years of my lack of desire. Background- when I was 26, it was hanging from the chandeliers, wild, kinky and dirty sex! Now that I'm 40, I'm just not into it like I used to be......It's causing a problem. 5 years ago, I had a boob job. The first thing I noticed was loss of feeling in my nipples. Touching them became very irritating and my husband eventually stopped. 3 years ago, I had a medical procedure and then my tubes tied. It has gone dramatically downhill since. My husband has recently told me, that even if I did all the things he suggested to getting in the mood, at this point, he's not into it anymore.... it makes me very sad to think that my husband is no longer sexually excited by me like he used to be. I keep hoping things will change, and have been trying to be more affectionate and tell him it's going to be okay- it's very uncomfortable. I don't kiss him very often, because he does not brush his teeth- it didn't used to bother me. I think I have been pre menopausal for a few years. I need to know how to work on my issues with lack of emotional support from him to do my part in our marriage. I am not one for long conversations about the same old tired issues, but he is. Our communication on almost everything is awkward. I hate seeing him so sad, but he feels it will never change into anything good again- don't know what to do.