The OM and your wife traded I love yous. Does he have a wife and do you have her contact info yet? This is curcial info. Welcome TAM CWI newbies- please read this Married Man Sex Life | How to have the marriage you thought you were going to have. By which I mean doing it like rabbits.
This is a blog and more improtantly a book you need to order today. You may be able to download the book, not sure though.