wickedlittletown

I agree, you both need to be ready for that sort of thing. You did not react correctly by just ignoring him. That is worse than rejection. That is not even acknowledging his needs period. You had a right to turn this down. Having kids is not the same as "should we change from carpet to wood?" both instances will be a decision you have to live with but you can always get rid of the wood, kids are there for the rest of your life. It is not fair to you, your marriage, or your future children to have them if they are not wanted by both parents! You can't undo a past wrong but you can make some changes right now... Stop pressuring him for kids. You didn't like it and neither does he. This is not the right time. Right now you need to fix what marriage you have left. It sounds like right now you are at least still good friends. Start there. Then gradually try to bring back the other things that have made you two happy for so long before your marriage.