Originally Posted by Swede
Well, that's the point. She says she goes to the gym, but I can't believe she spends 3 hours there.
She started going to the gym on her doctor's advice a few years ago. She has back problems and she really goes to the gym occasionally, I'm quite certain of that, but at least once a week it takes too long to be reasonable. I don't believe her back can stand an intensive 3-hour training but she simply claims she got stronger (another lie, I think). Her lover lives a 30-minute drive from our home and then staying away for 3 hours makes sense....
I'm considering to pay a surprise visit to the gym when it takes so long, but suppose she is there, then you need to say something that doesn't reveal you're actually spying.
I have no idea from your posts why you think you know who her lover is. Why are you so sure of this?
BTW, riding out an affair is not the way to go. Perhaps it has not gone physical. Yes it looks bad, but in any event the earlier you catch this less bonded they are.
Yes show up at the gym. First off you likely will find evidence she is not going to the gym or meeting someone else. Stay stealth. Do not show your hand. Give it some time. BUT then if you run into her just take her out to eat. But you focus is on NOT being seen. NOT confronting too soon. You need to see if she leaves with someone. A good chance she never gets to the gym at all.