| | Re: Clubbing all the time...
Just read the first page and was shocked no one dropped the bomb on you about this.
First, clubbing 3-4 times a month to close is bad mojo period. That discussion has been done to death, and I fully support that going solo to any bar or club, especially to close, is a bad idea.
Second, and this is what you should have a way bigger problem with, she cheated on you with someone else and she still hangs out with that person. On top of that, she's putting herself in a compromising position regularly with that person.
Would you be cool if she went clubbing with a dude she kissed 3-4 times a month? How is this any different?
You dealt with her infidelity poorly if you still allow her to contact this person. Once the boundary is crossed, it is extremely easy to cross again. All it takes is one awkward moment of lowered inhibitions (which she's getting into all the time), and full blown cheating happens. There is a really good chance this is already happening.
This is why any form of cheating needs to be dealt with seriously. Specifically, NC with the other person.
I'm wondering why you are OK with this on any level. Wives leave their husbands for women all the time, you are not "safe". Grow a pair and stop accepting that she craps all over you. Every time she talks to this woman is a slap in your face that you accept.
So to answer your question, is it ok that she talks to someone that she cheated on you with (and yes kissing is cheating), HELL NO!!!