Cooper

Hi folks, this is my first post and I wish I had never had to look for a site like this but here I am. I have come to believe my wife of 20 years may be cheating on me. I would like to get some answers from people who have commited infidelities. First of is on days you were with you lover how did you act when you returned home. Standoffish or extra loving. Did you feel quilty for what you did or couldn't wait to do it again. If caught in a lie did you react with anger or just down play it. This is a big one, did you have friends lie and cover for you? How did you get to the point of cheating, spur of the moment or a planned thing. My wife denies everything, even when confronted with a lie. Any insight please as to what to look for. Thanks, Cooper