mommy22

Unfortunately, I can give you some answers based on personal experience. They may or may not match what you are observing. When I was with the other guy, I was so guilt-sticken that I couldn't even look my husband in the eye. I didn't want to kiss him. I didn't want to tell him I loved him. I did whatever I could to preoccupy myself with other things so that I didn't have to appear so transparent to him. I was afraid he'd be able to see right through me. I took up extra time with the kids. On holidays or birthdays, I'd give him funny cards rather than romantic ones. I'd always try to act busy if he wanted to stop me for a lingering kiss. I'd watch more tv than usual in the evenings. I'd say I was too tired for sex. I'd get angrier with things that didn't used to make me as angry. I password protected my email. I was more secretive with computer use. I changed the ringtone on my cell to vibrate. I carried the phone with me all the time. I ran extra errands at night for him so that I could call the other guy--- when I used to hate to go out at night. I was short with him on the phone-- especially when there was a beep on call waiting (this was because I didn't want to miss a call-- which many were blocked). When we'd go out, I always wanted to go with another couple. I didn't want it to be just us. At the end of the affair, I asked if there was anything I could ever do that would make him not love me. I don't know if any of this helps or not. I hope that none of it matches her behavior and it's not the case. However, the chance that you have a question raises an eyebrow.