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Sanity · 04-30-2012, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by serpico396

My wife and I have been married for 5 years now. About a year and a half ago, my wife was out with her female friend (she is married with a 4 yr old) and they kissed. Feelings were involved, but they ‘decided’ that it wasn’t a good idea. Fine. Problem is, they still hang out all the time. I don’t mind the shopping once a week and things like that, but it’s the dance clubs 3 out of every 4 weekends (where the original kissing happened, though they say it isn't happening now). They close out the bars (2:30am here) and then my wife gets home at 4:30 or 5am, saying that she had to ‘sober up’ before driving home. I am 37, she is 35 and there are no kids, and I have been wanting kids for 7 years now (as soon as I met her I knew I wanted kids with her). This behavior of going out all the time has only started in the last couple years. She was not like this when we met and got married. Every time I try to talk to her about it we end up fighting, no matter how I bring it up to her. What should I do? Should I be ok with her going out with someone she cheated on me with (they only kissed, but to me that is cheating)?

Brother, what is a 35 year old married woman doing hitting a club and coming home to you @ 4:00 AM? You are 37 and trust me, having kids later in life does not get easier. Stop wasting your precious life. Yes you chose poorly with this woman. More than likely she will keep doing it and end up in a bar as a "cougar" hunting young men. When I was younger and bar hopping these cougars were plan B, C, D and F.

Do yourself a favor and file for divorce. She is not going to change. She is not marriage material let alone mother material. Dump swiftly and decisively and make sure to get a good lawyer so she doesn't take your life savings with her.

Let her live the single life. By the time she gets this lifestyle out of her system she will be an old hag with a drinking problem. Move on and find yourself a real wife and mother to your future offspring. Good luck buddy!