Originally Posted by AFEH
Just imagine how uncomfortable it is for the woman in the meeting with you across the table. She can clearly see and feel by your facial expressions and other body language that your attention is totally on her and nothing else that’s going on in the meeting.
Now she’s trapped. In that there’s not a thing she can do about it so she does her best to defocus on you so she can focus entirely on her job at hand.
And now think on everyone else in that meeting right there with you. If you don’t know that every other woman in the room knows exactly what’s going through your mind then you are most certainly mistaken. And you are again mistaken if they don’t talk about that lecher behind your back.
And if your manager’s a male and has any sense of awareness he’ll too know exactly what’s going on inside of you. Most especially when he’s especially sought your attention and hasn’t got it because your gawping across the table.
I think you're blowing this out of proportion. The guy who gets noticed for checking someone out at work is a guy that WANTED to get noticed, especially something ongoing. He's flirting. If she gives him the cold shoulder or ignores him and he continues or is too overt about it he's a douche and the harrassment should be addressed. Normally, you'd look and try to focus the rest of the meeting... but you still steal every glance you can get without being obvious about it.
Most of the time, we're thinking it, and women truly no more aware of it than we are aware of their thoughts. Its just coincidence that they get it right whenever they decide to call us on it, either because some guy was really being an overt douche, or by default... because we're all usually checking everyone out anyway. I'm sure there's a bell curve to this, but I'd wager most men fall in the big fat part of the curve labelled "checking everyone out most of the time". I often wonder if age plays a factor and I expected as I got out of my 20s things would mellow out... it certainly hasn't for me, and from what I hear, anyone I know.
There's really nowhere I go that I don't identify every good looking woman within eyesight almost immediately, and from what I gather, that's not peculiar to me. Guys I know even scan the nearby cars at stoplights, or occassionally adjust speed to get a better look at the face of that girl with the pretty hair... oops... not cute... nevermind, pass.