swedish

I don't think you can jump to any conclusions based on her reaction. I would talk to her about your marriage in general over the last 10 years. In my first marriage, I had a very demanding career (professional/upper management) and 3 young children & began to feel resentment towards my husband because I felt unloved and unappreciated. Not to say you fall into the same category, but I never had an affair although our sex life dwindled to almost non-existent because as my resentment towards him grew, I had no desire to be with him. By the time we divorced, I felt completely unloved, used and emotionally detached from him. I would recommend having a good heart-to-heart talk with her to see if you can rekindle the spark between you....putting her on the defensive will only make her shut down even more and will not help you with this issue in the long run.