Originally Posted by tobio
No? I'm still thinking about it Lon. I honestly feel that whilst what you say is spot-on, with my husband... Well it's not something tangible for him.
When we were talking last night he reminded me of an incident a while ago involving this female friend. We were out one night in town again as part of a large group. She used to smoke, and my husband does. She asked him if he had a light, he was carrying beers back from the bar. He said yeah, but my light's in my pocket.
Now I can't remember whether he said she could get it or she asked or even if she juat did it off her own back, but I then watched as she reached into one of his jeans front pocket and got his lighter out.
I remember being pretty open-mouthed. We had a massive argument about it. I remember him saying then that it really didn't bother him for her to do that, that's "just what she's like."
Remembering this has made me really angry. I am sat here thinking of the many instances now he has either demnstrated poor boundaries on his own part or disrespected mine. What irks me is even with clear communication he is still disrespecting my boundaries. Or as he says he just doesn't think about them.
*throws hands up in air in frustration*
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OMG!!! She reached in his pants???? Right there in front of you??? I would have told HER to back off. Wow, Tobio you are way too nice. I am pretty mello most times but on NO day is some chick reaching into my H's pants for ANYTHING, EVER! I am so sorry youre going thru this. My H has boundary issues as well so I understand your frustration. My H is learning to put up the walls so to speak(IC). Maybe some IC for your H to learn why he needs so much attention from these other women?