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Originally Posted by Shaggy  Slater if it was infrequent, but survived him moving jobs etc, how can you or even she know that she won't decide to get some in six months or a year?
I ask this not to be negative, but to prompt you to get her to answer it and to put in place what you will do to detect it if it happens, and what plan you will enact when it happen? Work though these questions now brier she clams up and no longer wants to talk about it.
Edited to fix up bad spelling from iPad typing,
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This is a very legitimate concern. Add in that she is still traveling for her new job and it is a very dangerous situation. Here is the plan-
1 she has an iPhone now that we own and I see the bill instead of a work BB
2 I am considering adding spy software to it
3 we have a set of travel rules that she helped craft
4 her actions display to me that she is serious about R and knows any tiny slip up will result in D
5 I think he is afraid of me making a mess of his life (exposure to his ER)
6 better communication between us
7 a little faith
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