Re: Problems with son leading to problems with sex
Your husband needs to realize that his drinking is the problem. "Trying" does not count. His drinking is adversely affecting his family, his relationships, and is starting to have legal consequences (DUI).
One suggestion is to schedule a family intervention. You don't have to necessarily do it like they do on television, but having family members address him directly, and FIRMLY setting boundaries might get him to realize just how serious the situation is.
Staying with an alcoholic is not a solution. I guarantee you, the disease will affect you and your children in disturbingly profound ways.