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Browncoat · 05-01-2012, 09:14 AM

I'd like to second getting individual counseling for you. Not sure what type of therapist would be best, maybe a sex therapist?

You need to understand where your urges are suddenly coming from. You can't deal with it, until you understand why now. Unless I'm mistaken you've not really had this sense of urgent urges until recently, right?

How is your sex life with your husband? I know it's not the same, but if there's a lack of sexual release at all it will make things harder.

I also agree that if you start getting close to other women (women you find at all attractive) it could lead to an EA and possibly a PA. Neither are good for your marriage.

This isn't something that will just go away on it's own. It's not something that you take a "straight" pill for. You will likely need to have a therapist who you can visit on and off for years if you want to stay faithful in your marriage.

I'd also recommend a male therapist. You don't need your mind going to places in therapy that aren't constructive.

05-01-2012, 09:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
Browncoat Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 2,192	Re: married and bisexual-failing at repressing sexuality I'd like to second getting individual counseling for you. Not sure what type of therapist would be best, maybe a sex therapist? You need to understand where your urges are suddenly coming from. You can't deal with it, until you understand why now. Unless I'm mistaken you've not really had this sense of urgent urges until recently, right? How is your sex life with your husband? I know it's not the same, but if there's a lack of sexual release at all it will make things harder. I also agree that if you start getting close to other women (women you find at all attractive) it could lead to an EA and possibly a PA. Neither are good for your marriage. This isn't something that will just go away on it's own. It's not something that you take a "straight" pill for. You will likely need to have a therapist who you can visit on and off for years if you want to stay faithful in your marriage. I'd also recommend a male therapist. You don't need your mind going to places in therapy that aren't constructive.