Originally Posted by Cooper

Your story takes me back 36 years to when I was a 15 year old boy. I wanted nothing more than to kick the **** out of my father and protect my mother, but I was scared and how do you hit your father? Looking back I tried to direct his anger at me because it's all I knew to do, and trust me I did a pretty good job of making him angry. Your son wants to be a man, he wants to protect you and can't bare to see you hurt, emotionally or physically. But he is conflicted, he see's your husband direct hostility toward you, he see's his father act like a jerk and a bully, but how does he confront and challenge his own father? So he let's him know how he feels by showing him he hates him for what he does, by not speaking to him, by showing him he is disgusted with him, embarrassed by him, and by showing him he has zero respect for him

I can't tell you how to fix this, but I remember being that 15 year old boy. Your son is pissed and he wants dad to know it. And it sounds like your son is right, do you want your son to grow up thinking that kind of behavior from a husband and father is OK ? I think you should give the boy a hug and thank him for caring.