tfrontera

I kinda know what you are going thru. My husband of 8 years, we have been together for 12 and have 3 kids together, just came back from a treatment center in Florida, and while he was down there made all kinds of promises for a change and everything will be better and he did this for us and not just him. And now that he is home he has talked about nothing other thne going back to Florida and how he wants us to go if we want to and that he wants to go down there first and the four of us can stay behind while he gets settled. He wants to start a new life for himself and thinks that where we live is draggin him down. And everytime we talk, I get highly upset and cry all the time, which I am just as tired of doing as he is watching and ignoring me once I get to that place. I can't help my crying, I dont know why I do it, I just do. I get upset because I feel like my marriage is over and I cant do anything about it.
I am just as confused with him wanting space and wanting to set up things down there in Florida while we stay back here. I feel as though he is trying to slowly move out of our lives and not want us to come down there. And when I ask him why he feels this way, he doesnt know, which gets me crying again. I had my doctor put me on zoloft today in hopes to try and start improving myself. I need to go to counseling and I keeping using my kids and work and house stuff and not having enough time to do it as an excuse. I found your posting and wanted to let you know that I can somewhat relate to what you are going thru, however I seemed to turn this into me just getting everything off my mind that I have been thinking about. So in the end, I guess we need to start thinking about ourselves and if they feel they need space then let them have it, who knows for some reason or another everything happens for a reason and maybe this will be a new start for both of us. Good Luck in what may coe your way. Keep you head high!