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Jimmy · 05-01-2012, 03:47 PM

It started 5 months ago I was having anxiety problems and uncomfortable with my wife going to see the same cover band every 6 weeks or so. Every time she went she got extremely drunk , was always in the front row by the same guitar player and at the end of the night always ot a picture taken with him. I freaked out finally and thought she was having an affair when I found another pic of those 2 after a show and she didn't want me to see it because she has so many. This lead to a nervous breakdown and almost destroyed our marriage.

We got thru it, she told me she would never go there again, being with me and the kids is much more important. Now 3 weeks ago she now is frustrated that she can't go to the show anymore. Never mind how I felt about her actions. So its her friends birthday and she always goes to these shows and none of her other friends can go so my wife has to go to the show, never mind my feelings.
The last 3 weeks she has been acting very odd and last Saturday I am just to suspicious and I get on her computer and look at her history. For the last 4 weeks she has gone to this guys facebook page once or twice a day. I tell her what I did last night and she is extremely angry that I didn't respect her privacy and she didn't think there was anything wrong with going to his page every day. Today I see that she is facebook friends with him but has me blocked from seeing that she is friends with him. I am extremely upset. She says nothing ever happened and she barely knows the guy, he lives on the other side of the state and only saw him for a few minutes at the shows. But I think this is really wrong. Can I et anyones opinion on this? Am I overreacting? There have been no texts, e-mails or chats that I am aware of. The guy is married with a small kid. But I think it is wrong that she just can't stay away from this guy? Thoughts?

05-01-2012, 03:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jimmy Registered User Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 25	Confused by Wife's Actions It started 5 months ago I was having anxiety problems and uncomfortable with my wife going to see the same cover band every 6 weeks or so. Every time she went she got extremely drunk , was always in the front row by the same guitar player and at the end of the night always ot a picture taken with him. I freaked out finally and thought she was having an affair when I found another pic of those 2 after a show and she didn't want me to see it because she has so many. This lead to a nervous breakdown and almost destroyed our marriage. We got thru it, she told me she would never go there again, being with me and the kids is much more important. Now 3 weeks ago she now is frustrated that she can't go to the show anymore. Never mind how I felt about her actions. So its her friends birthday and she always goes to these shows and none of her other friends can go so my wife has to go to the show, never mind my feelings. The last 3 weeks she has been acting very odd and last Saturday I am just to suspicious and I get on her computer and look at her history. For the last 4 weeks she has gone to this guys facebook page once or twice a day. I tell her what I did last night and she is extremely angry that I didn't respect her privacy and she didn't think there was anything wrong with going to his page every day. Today I see that she is facebook friends with him but has me blocked from seeing that she is friends with him. I am extremely upset. She says nothing ever happened and she barely knows the guy, he lives on the other side of the state and only saw him for a few minutes at the shows. But I think this is really wrong. Can I et anyones opinion on this? Am I overreacting? There have been no texts, e-mails or chats that I am aware of. The guy is married with a small kid. But I think it is wrong that she just can't stay away from this guy? Thoughts?