| | Re: Fingers and Toes Crossed!!!
CTU - I think you both freely admit that there are issues in the marriage that need to be addressed, not that they assign any responsibility to you for his decisions, but I think you both realize there are areas for improvement. You said yourself that reconciliation couldn't really BEGIN until he left that job and we all agree with you. He even offered to walk out if that's what you wanted/needed him to do, so in that offer he was certainly putting you before the job. The two of you collectively agreed that it was best he work out two weeks notice and then really start on R after that - right? So give your H just a little room to do what was agreed on. I understand your frustration - I promise I do - but this is not an overnight process, it's not a sprint. It's a very long marathon - with lots of really high mountains to climb and really low valleys to get through.
When he finishes his two weeks the dawn is not going to come and shine upon a bright new world in which you H does everything perfectly to meet your needs or progress with R. He's going to take some missteps and so are you. It is a process - not a destination.
Many people post here to vent, which is great because it lets them blow off some steam without consequence. Just try to be careful that you are venting and not keeping score. Part of being fully committed to R is to not keep score - or to keep it as little as possible.