Yes. Me to.
I draw some bright lines here.
- I initiate a lot of very intimate - non-sexual touches. The full body hug I do from behind in the kitchen is not sexual. It feels REALLY good because she melts back into me. Love that. If she ever saw me hug another woman like that - she would quite rightly go instantly ballistic.
- We spoon in bed a LOT - USUALLY after one of us has said "Lets spoon and watch tv which means we are not having sex. And usually that is me as that is the guilt free pass for the night.
- She initiates a lot of non-sexual touch - I love that to
There is no "teasing" though. She doesn't do even lightly sexual stuff unless she wants to have sex. And she knows that I don't mix the two because I realized it was best to separate non-sexual affection from sex - for me. As the LD partner she gets to do whatever she wants. And that seems fair to me. Meaning she can turn affection into sex. Reason I don't is I don't want to add to the long list of women who are anxious when their H hugs them, because it is almost always the first step in his initiation. Since I seek to provide comfort, and a zone of warmth and love, I prefer to leave anxiety triggers out of the equation. If she was stiff when I hugged her, instead of melting into me, I would feel rejected.....
Originally Posted by tacoma
I`m starting to wonder what percentage of sexless marriages have husbands who don`t differentiate sexual and non sexual touching.
I see a very small pattern emerging in this thread.