Cooper

I understand that people need alone time. My wife and I both have hobbies that give us time apart. She has her horses, she is involved in endurance riding which is usually a three day event when you include travel time. I am involved in trap shooting and bicycling. We have good friends as a couple as well as our own friends. The time apart has also become one of our issues. Her hobby takes priority over everthing else. If I have plans to go trap shooting and the basement floods I cancel my plans. She on the other hand will say good luck with that as she walks out the door. Yes it happened!! She is not a drunk but most activities with her friends seem to involve drinking. I am not a drinker and have got to the point where I just don't like being with her when she is drinking, but I am also afraid of not being there because people do stupid things when they drink. Losttrust, thanks for your offer, I have a good bunch of friends I can talk to, and some have been thru the same things. It's nice to be able to post a problem here and get several points of view. Thanks to all. Cooper