Originally Posted by iheartlife
He is almost surely in an emotional affair with her.
I would get the book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass ASAP. It's a long, thorough, detailed book that takes you from where you are now to where you are trying to go step by step by step.
Do you have any ability to see his cell phone bills? This will give you an idea at least of the level of texting and phone calls between them.
But I think you already have more than enough to be extremely suspicious.
Your biggest problem is dealing with this long-distance. Do you have any relatives or friends in the area?
No, I can't see his cell bill. We are on separate plans. Right now we are not seeing each other at all and I don't have any fam/friends there. In te past week since he walked out and refused to go to the second counseling session I was originally going wit the divorce/separation idea, thinking it might knock some sense into him to see that he can't run off and cry divorce every time I try to talk about something he doesn't like with him, but when I called him Tues night about getting my things he said he wanted to somehow get them to me without seeing me. He said he never wanted to see me again and not for me to ever call him again, as though he has something to be mad at me about. He has quite a temper, but it usually blows over pretty fast. I don't know where this is coming from.
I left him a voicemail today and told him he needs to be sure this is what he wants, because I'm not going to stay legally married to someone who doesn't even want to look at or speak to me, so I'm going to start moving forward legally if that's how he really feels. I also said I think I deserve an explanation as to where this has all come from, because I put a lot of time and effort into a relationship that he clearly wasn't really committed to if he can just drop it after one counseling session. I told him I think he owes me some answers so that I can have some closure. He sent me a text and said he will call me tonight.