Originally Posted by ocotillo
If a woman wants an evening of intimacy without sex, then it's really important that she communicate that to her husband beforehand. Without being a mind reader, man is not going to know the difference between cuddling on the couch watching television as an incremental step to further intimacy and cuddling on the couch watching television for its own sake.
But the thing in my house is that if I communicate with him well ahead of time that I'm not in the mood (or whatever) for sex that night -- I automatically get no touch whatsoever until the next night, when he think he stands a better chance of having sex. Or if I try to hug him or touch him later after I've let him know we won't be having sex, he thinks I changed my mind and now I want sex.
I don't think he understands the whole non sexual touch thing, he doesn't see a point in it, but I've done what I can, what is within my power to do to try and increase my drive... I need his help now.
I was going to bring it up to him last night -- But I don't know how. I should just blurt it out -- "I need non sexual touch occasionally"... I don't know.