shane33

molly92 i can kinda see what your husband is up to it is probably the hardest thing he has ever had to do. I think he has hit rock bottom and givin up he has left so he will not drag you or the kids down he is supposed to be the rock in the family and instead he feels like a failure. He is falling at a fast rate into a depression and if you love him and care for him you need to act fast by simply being there for him and show him that its ok and there is more to life than money and that togather a family can and will over come anything togather.
He needs to see that you care still and are there for support also but be carefull not to push him it will be the hardest thing to do i know i have been there.If you can't get him to talk see if you can get him to right it down in a letter or even a journal just his thoughts and feelings even if noones eles reads it it will be a big help for him to get it out in the air and clear he needs to vent and not suppress the fealings trust me when he starts to vent don't say a word just sit back and listen it is very important not to get defensive if he goes on the attack there will be time for that later on when the waters have calmed down just try and be civil and supportive for him he will come around and it is important for the kids to relize whats happening also so they do not resent him for what is going on. I f they resent him he will run and keep on running everyone needs to be supportive and he will come around
I read a book that helped me and it might help you it is called relationship rescue by philip c mcgraw (dr phil) it is a good book and probably worth a try
the other one is Why mars&venus collide by john gray i have only just strted this one but seems good so far .
Good luck i hope all works out for you it is very tough but well worth it in the end

shane