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Originally Posted by Catherine602  He is telling you that he finds you very attractive. He is expressing it in a way that he would feel comfortable with, raw and strait forward. There is nothing wrong with that some men and woman like it and some don't.
That is where communication comes in. It is a common difference between some men and woman. It is equally as common to have to find a good way to deal with it.
Women look for that kind of affirmation all the time and you got it. Now you have to work to get him to express his attraction in a way that makes you both feel good.
Since it is a compliment, please don't be angry or annoyed with him. That will hurt and confuse him and he may carry resentment.
He may think he is giving you what you want. The best thing for your relationship is to step around in his shoes and figure out what and how to tell him.
Tell him what would make you feel attractive to him. Let him know you welcome his expression of attraction but in a toned-down fashion. |
lol I've already outright told him that it annoys me and it's a turn off... he up and does it anyways later one that day. Of course i only seem to feel this way when preggy... which he has been through three times(including now) already... and like I've told him before... "Hey this is the much needed break you were asking for ..." Of course whenever i say that.. he responds with.... "I wish I never said that..." lol. Lately he has been better with this... since I told him if I felt I wanted to be touched or shown affection... I'd initiate it for the amount of time I feel comfortable... (which lately has been less and less since the kicking in the ribs, stomach, and bladder tend to prevent me from feeling very comfy most of the time) but he's been pretty good with it. As far as resentment... I've never seen or heard him express any in that area... Of course I do know it is probably hard to go from.. getting it multiple times a day to suddenly going months without it (during the pregnancy and a bit after) but like I said.. he's been pretty respectful... micheivous perhaps... but still respectful.
