madaboutlove

Shoo, that is so true. I won't say my stbxh is emotionally abusive, but so much of our relationship was about what made him happy and not me. And I thought I was happy making him happy, too busy to notice what I wasn't getting. And to tell you the truth, I probably would have lived out my life like that. This is in many ways the best thing that ever happened to me. I am making better relationship choices with my friends, my family, my kids and colleagues. I had to spend time with H last night for my son's birthday and a friend said just sit and watch him. How often does he do something for someone else? DOes he ask people questions about themselves or just talk about himself? IF you were together, what would you have to be doing right now to make him happy and check to see if you are happier not doing that. And you know what, the dinner was fine and I checked all that out and so much of it was true. I went early and had a drink with my son's girlfriend, they asked me about work and I asked them about their plans for a trip. We told some stories about my son when he was small and laughed about that. It was all good. True, I am still sad we are not all together all the time as a family, but I guess we can still be a family and be apart. And you know what, when it was time to go home, I was glad to be going alone, go home, slip into pj's, watch what I wanted to do, do some work, not have to try to make him happy with my choices. Life is pretty good right now. And, there might even be a man who wants to spend some time with me who makes me smile and remember I am a woman! (with needs!)