I grew up seeing husbands in my immediate and extended family enjoy cheating, so I certainly know that it can happen to us. I don't worry about it because I will not tolerate infidelity.
Did you ever consider that a spouse can have extra cell phones or FB accounts that they simply don't share?
Their partners may believe that they have access to everything, but the cheating spouse could be hiding even more. It happens all the time. Unfaithful spouses get P.O boxes to receive cell phone and credit card bills. Meanwhile, their poor naive partners have a false sense of security because they get to look in the cheater's other email.
My point is, it is ALWAYS possible to cheat no matter how transparent you think your marriage is. My father did not have a cell phone when he cheated on my mother. He called his OW from our house my mom was at work
. This went on for years
. Neither of my parents had email or Facebook and they opened each other's lettermail all the time.
I found your post very assumptive and condescending. Perhaps YOU are the one who is not thinking properly if you believe that total transparency can head off affairs. People will always find a way to do something wrong if they really want to.
I was responding to Hank's blanket statement that husband and wives who do not share everything are cheaters.