| | Re: Wife won't end affair
The only way to end an affair that has gone one this long is to drive her towards the OM (other man). Once are alone and have to depend on each other for all of their emotional needs to be met the affair will not last. Affairs are fantasies, they die when they are faced with real life.
You have been enabling the affair. The reason that your wife has not left you is that she still needs the things you do for her and the needs of hers you meet. Once the OM has to do all of this … POOF no more affair.
Your best bet is see an attorney to start divorce papers. Then tell her that you want her to leave as she is causing too much pain for you and the children. Do not allow her to take your children from the family home. And do not move out of the family home yourself.
You cannot make her leave legally. But you can sure encourage her to leave if she will not end the affair on the spot.
It’s time for you to play hardball. Up to now you have helped her keep this affair and only hurt yourself by being an indulging ‘nice guy’.