Originally Posted by brokenbloke
I don't know what he's thinking, nor, if you've discussed this with him, that he doesn't get it. I tell my wife she looks beautiful all the time.
I'm not certain for advice, but if this is a problem for you then the only thing I can suggest is some behavioural modification maybe? It seems as, since he only acknowledges your looks and effort to look nice when he wants some, that he's taking you for granted. Or, at the very least, he's complimenting for strictly self-serving reasons, and not at all for your sake. If so, stop getting dressed up for him. Stop making the the effort to look good. See how he reacts when you wear sweats alllll the time. Maybe withhold sex? All this should be done with open lines of communication so he at least knows why this is going on...
As it stands if you dont change anything you do he will not either since he can have his cake with very little effort...
Thanks... but, I do want honesty, and don't withold sex as a tool with or without communication.
I was hoping that I would hear "we sometimes are thinking WOW she looks great but don't always say it out loud" but it sounds so far the answer is more like " he's just not into you getting dolled up, ie... its doesn't make much differnece to him"
Which is kinda a bummer, but I guess I will just have to pull up my big girl pants and deal. he is not perfect and neither am I.