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Originally Posted by paulab
He blames his attitude (which he thinks is fine) on my lack of affection.
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This sounds contradictory to me. If he believes his attitude is fine, he wouldn't need to find something to blame it on. I think he knows it isn't fine, and maybe needs to feel love/affection the same way you do but is afraid to invest himself for a temporary fix (as you have already tried yourself). Rather than focus on what he isn't doing as far as love/affection, talk to him about how you are feeling. See if he will open up about how he feels and whether you both still want to re-connect. If he cannot come around and speak calmly with you without attacking you (assuming you go to him without putting him on the defensive) then at least you can do what you need to knowing you did everything you could.