| | Re: My unconventional marriage
I thought I should take time and respond to people that took time to read and respond to my thread.
Peachy Cat: I think our family is important to my wife and me. I'm sure she agreed to some things because she wants to do what is best for our kids. I think our love is special and it can overcome a lot of challenges. I'm definitely not a person that is capable of being monogamous for better or worse. I've had multiple affairs in the past. At least with this arrangement everyone is faithful.
Moxy: Thanks for the advice. I do think honesty is a good policy and one I strive for. I'm working on getting better at it.
Jaquen: I think our relationship is a work in process. Its not something we planned on doing which puts us at a disadvantage. A lot of the other poly relationships I've seen are well-planned. Ours happened organically. I think what we are doing is the best for me, my wife, girlfriend, and my kids.
Livelaughlovenow: It was a mistake on my behalf, yes. Its a pretty complicated situation and its hard to turn off feelings instantly. Add in that we were living together and it became almost inevitable that something would happen. It was a mistake but we are trying to the best now. I always try to have an optimistic state of mind!
Shaggy: I think you are not being understanding. I take offense at you calling my twins "bastards". They are innocent babies. My girlfriend and kids are part of our family. I have to protect them and take care of them. Doing that is not stealing from anyone. My wife has not expressed any desire to leave me and we are trying to have another child.
BlindSide: My girlfriend is in her early 20s so she isn't "much younger". I always try to do the best for my wife and I will pay extra care to her like you recommended. I will look into counseling but we don't live in a large metropolis so it may be hard to find counseling that fits for us. I've apologized to my wife for lying to her but I am trying to look to the future and behave honestly from now on.
ThatGirl: Thank you the wish of good luck. I knew my girlfriend as a friend before we started to see each other romantically so that is why it didn't take that long.
Keko: I'm going to try to make my relationships work so to avoid that. I think being at home with parents is better than separate with support. I think both women in my life agree with this.
Davi: My wife does have high expectations and I sometimes struggle to meet them. It is tough. There is only so much time in a day. I think I am doing good all things considered. Our family is very comfortable as a result of my hard work and they are my priority. I do sometimes wish my wife was more appreciative of that but no one is perfect.