unbelievable

Tell him you're an adult and you're not going to converse with angry 2 year olds. If he can't talk to his wife with a little maturity and respect, he just doesn't get to talk to her. Then, the next time you see the 2 year old, calmly walk away. Leave the house if you have to. He'll eventually get tired of screaming at no one. Nobody persists in an action unless they get a reward. Make sure he doesn't get his reward. I don't think you're overly sensitive, but just a rational, normal human being who doesn't appreciate verbal and emotional abuse. Who does? If I didn't have any kids with this man and I had little invested, I would probabably just bail on him. Life is too short to live with an abuser.