Re: Trying to Work it Out
I think we find out about an affair our immediate reaction is to either "get out" in anger or "let's work it out" & nothing in between. I think we are in such shock that this could really be happening to us that we loose sense of ourselves.
I immediately thought - "what's wrong with me" - how could he love someone else? what does she have that I don't have?
I took the "let's work it out" mode & have been struggling to do that ever since. I have my doubts if I should have trusted again, especially when I was let down again. But I am a believer in "marriage" & feel that too many people throw in the towel too soon without really trying to work it out. Maybe I am stubborn in that way but I just don't think couples should give up as easily as it as accepted these days.
I think you made the right decision to try - I think you owe it to yourself & your husband. But something I have to remind myself is that the "relationship" didn't get to this stage overnight - there are many underlying issues involved & it'll take time to discover what those issues are & what went wrong.
I believe it is worth "trying" & not giving up hope so soon.
wishing you the best of luck - looks like you posted back in jan - so I am sure a lot has happened since then.
it would be nice to hear a success story amongst so many not so many sucesses.
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