Originally Posted by dmdream
I am not sure I believe in things like that anymore. Please, help me change my mind. What percentage of people you know entered their dream marriage?
All the stories here are so very different... I consider me & my husbands marraige one so free flowing, I would liken it to a Dream, every love song we hear is "ours". Sure we argue sometimes & have bad days, but that is normal. We quickly make amends & life is beautiful 95% of the time. We have 6 kids too, they keep us hopping but we count it all JOY.....we are living our Purpose & Destiny.
We have only been with each other in this life ....we met young... we even used to joke .....why the heck does everyone say it gets worse after you marry... cause we always felt it got BETTER
!!! Like..what the hell are those people talking about!!@#$%^
For us (different from *Deans* experience.).... me & my husband were both rather mature in our teens, never the partier type...never had temptation to follow any crowds either, neither of us cared for sowing oats ....... we both had dreams of meeting "that very special" someone that would steal our hearts & never let go....I was 15, he was 18...met at the lunch table of a new school.
We quickly became Best friends, even before we had our 1st kiss on a walking trail... We rambled on about our future for years before we married, writing letters back & forth, we were inseparable... my gf's used to get mad as it was all about HIM once he entered my life.....we had it all planned out...Work hard, save like mad... find a country home, work on it together, have some kids, he wanted to provide while I stayed home (both of us very frugal).....I was to be the SAHM, barefoot & pregnant....our dream = to find a country Farmhouse somewhere, I used to think I wanted to marry a Farmer...but he was just a Dairy Manager at a Grocery store. Close enough!
I swear we were always on the same page in our hopes & dreams, every goal... what we seemed to enjoy in life ... we both hated sports & loved getting off alone togehter, movies, rock concerts, country walks...It is what filled our days & hearts.
Our personalities are very different.. .Me the feisty , energetic, assertive chick meets the shy passive laid back guy who gets a charge out of my enthusiam -sometimes a bit heightened .....even when I get a little mad ... I get myself in some trouble with my mouth, he just shakes his head...Loves me anyway... I get irritated & annoyed... he has the fine ability to make me laugh at myself. It works very sweetly. What he lacks, I seem to have.... and what I lack... he seems to posses, so when we come together .....WE make a glorious whole.
As most marriages....we missed it in a few areas ....one was me having some "good girl" hang ups for too many yrs in the bedroom
...then a monkey wrench of Infertilty after our 1st son .... but even then , those years were still amazing ......then after 5 more kids in our 30's ..... I came into my Sexual Awakening (which led me to this forum -damn that was a WILD RIDE! ).......alot like ThreeTimesAlady here ........ never dreamed things could get so HOT !!
I thank God every day for this precious gift of a man in my life... he's never let me down.
He still reaches for my hand even when we are in the Suburban driving down the road -with a truck load of kids behind us. Just taking a walk in the back yard is "a date" for us, him picking me flowers across the feild, who needs special roses bought! Not this wife.
He is a very devoted faithful loving man -a "one woman" man... a phenomenal Father (everyone loves Dad!), an exceptional pleaser in bed... what more can a woman ask for !
I feel when 2 Hopeless Romantics come together in this life, they are very very hard to separate. That is what we are... and we treasure that in each other...keeps us on a "high" every day.... The Hopeless Romantic Male...do you enjoy sappy movies with your wife or GAG & run?