Originally Posted by amberlynn
Okay first off, youre messing up by buggin your wife by the way she looks. It shouldnt matter what your wife looks like, people are gonna change over the years, you should love her no matter what she looks like. I think your an ass for havin to close your eyes and picture her differently. If shes confortable the way she looks then leave her alone..let her decide if she wants to lose it or not, dont keep pressuren her to do somethin shes not ready to do, or doesnt want to do, just leave her alone, otherwise you might end up losen her.
Sorry, but I love my wife with all my heart, but when it comes to the sex department, I would have the same issues this man is having if my wife was that big (200 lbs).
My wife has, understandably, put on some weight over the 9.5 years. She has had 3 kids, and 5 abdominal surgeries (3 C-sections, gall bladder removal, tubal ligation). She now is about 35-40 lbs heavier than she was when we got married. However, in her current state I find her just as "hot" as ever. However, if she put on another 40-50 lbs and got up to 200+, I really thinK I would have an "attractiveness" issue when it comes to the bedroom.
Who knows, she has never been that big, maybe my love would overpower my eyesight and I'd still be attracted to her sexually.
My wife and I are both working on ourselves health wise, I have lost 20lbs this year, she has lost 15.
As for the OP, I have no idea other than tell her how you are feeling sexually. You are doing some of the right things like working out yourself first, etc.
Hey, at least you are not closing your eyes and thinking of someone else, you are just picturing her from when you first got married.