| | Re: Can't perform during sex because of wife's weight
Attractiveness is not unconditional. You can claim you're 100% attracted to your spouse all the time because you have a piece of paper that says "better or worse" on it, and that may make you feel good about yourself, but is it really true? Suppose this person stopped taking bathes? Should he still support her in her filth? What if she started smoking crack and her teeth fell out? At what point is it okay to admit he's finding his wife less attractive without being labeled shallow? Again we're not talking about someone who's big boned, or tall, or struggling with some weight gain, we're talking about someone who's doubled in size in 4 years, presumeably because she just doesn't care. Whatever your spouse weighs today, imagine him/her double their weight. That would have no effect on your view of them?