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Originally Posted by joeschmo  posted this on someone else thread and I felt it was worth sharing with the forum as I have not seen this thread.
I have not read all the comments on this post but have been looking at quite a few on this forum that are similar and I hope I am not alone on this and wish someone would tell me that I am WRONG!!! if you are making fake profiles installing keylogger's and spying on your spouse. YOU ARE WRONG. if you do not trust your spouse then just confront him/her and stand by your arguement, if you have jealousy issues go get professional help. if your spouse is going to cheating websites...do I really need to spell it out? so to all the people who encourage these devious tactics, grow a set and grow up. |
No one endorses spying on your spouse as a way of life. That's foolish. When people suspect that an affair is going on and need to gather information to determine whether or not to confront a spouse about surreptitious behavior and dangerous deceit, then it is a useful tool. One has to determine whether one's spouse is or isn't trustworthy when that spouse behaves in a shady manner and so such a tool is useful for that. When a spouse continues to lie and not own up to the truth, that is, proves to be untrustworthy, the advice is generally "You can't trust your spouse so decide if you want to live without trust or want to split up" not "keep spying forever to see if your spouse ever makes a mistake". You, OP, are taking this advice out of context, I think. Put it in the right context and you'll see why it's recommended. No one should spy on a spouse unless there is a real reason to suggest something is amiss and if nothing is discovered, then the spying needs to be stopped and the spouse who is doing the spying needs to come clean about it in order to resolve the trust problem.
