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Maricha75 · 05-08-2012, 03:09 PM

Short version:
I had EA 2 yrs ago. I was caught because of youngest handing my cell to DH after he opened my emails. He requested NC, I stopped talking to OM.

We moved, things got bad again, and I started chatting with a friend of DH, and another EA started. I know, my choice, my fault, I take blame. Lots involved with it, all mentioned in long version. But I hid it better/longer. EA ended, but afterward I still intended to leave DH. Had made that decision already.

I talked to a girl friend about it, and she, essentially made a play for him. Started EA with him when I told her my intentions. Got to the point he was calling her sexy and beautiful. I asked him to stop talking to her, he said no problem but didn't "get" it. She flipped out. They both maintained "just friends" but you don't call someone sexy if they are "just friends"... nor do you send pics of yourself in your bra/underclothes.... And he still doesn't understand that it WAS and EA he had with her. He confided things he should have been talking with me about.

We are working things out, but different things trigger my mind, and he thinks i need to just move past it.

05-08-2012, 03:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Maricha75 Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,976	Re: Don't think I have the "right" to be upset, yet at the same time, I do... Short version: I had EA 2 yrs ago. I was caught because of youngest handing my cell to DH after he opened my emails. He requested NC, I stopped talking to OM. We moved, things got bad again, and I started chatting with a friend of DH, and another EA started. I know, my choice, my fault, I take blame. Lots involved with it, all mentioned in long version. But I hid it better/longer. EA ended, but afterward I still intended to leave DH. Had made that decision already. I talked to a girl friend about it, and she, essentially made a play for him. Started EA with him when I told her my intentions. Got to the point he was calling her sexy and beautiful. I asked him to stop talking to her, he said no problem but didn't "get" it. She flipped out. They both maintained "just friends" but you don't call someone sexy if they are "just friends"... nor do you send pics of yourself in your bra/underclothes.... And he still doesn't understand that it WAS and EA he had with her. He confided things he should have been talking with me about. We are working things out, but different things trigger my mind, and he thinks i need to just move past it.