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Maricha75 · 05-08-2012, 03:47 PM

When we were talking about that, I know I brought up not getting the attention I needed from him. I am certain that's not the whole problem, but a part of it. With his depression, and the other diagnoses he has received, he hasn't been able to as well as he used to. And, when that started to diminish, I turned to other men instead of focusing on the kids, myself, and making sure I was there for him. By not being there for him, it drove him further into depression which pushed me further away.

No, I am not saying he is to blame. I am saying *I* should have focused on the family, or turned to a trusted female friend who could have helped me through this. But I didn't. I am sure there is more to it than that, but it's a start.

And I understand WHY he turned to K2 when I was checking out. I just am not sure why he doesn't acknowledge it for what it was. Maybe because he always maintained that stance against flirting and now he knows he went down that same road, just not as far?

05-08-2012, 03:47 PM	#12 (permalink)
Maricha75 Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,970	Re: Don't think I have the "right" to be upset, yet at the same time, I do... When we were talking about that, I know I brought up not getting the attention I needed from him. I am certain that's not the whole problem, but a part of it. With his depression, and the other diagnoses he has received, he hasn't been able to as well as he used to. And, when that started to diminish, I turned to other men instead of focusing on the kids, myself, and making sure I was there for him. By not being there for him, it drove him further into depression which pushed me further away. No, I am not saying he is to blame. I am saying I should have focused on the family, or turned to a trusted female friend who could have helped me through this. But I didn't. I am sure there is more to it than that, but it's a start. And I understand WHY he turned to K2 when I was checking out. I just am not sure why he doesn't acknowledge it for what it was. Maybe because he always maintained that stance against flirting and now he knows he went down that same road, just not as far?