Believer, I just wanted to say that I totally agree with you. It felt so good to read someone else shares my thoughts on this. My husband cheated on me and yea it hurt to the core and it still does but I am not willing to give up on him so easily. I also believe in "marriage" and I will be damned if I don't try.
Reading replies like yours make me feel even more optimistic.
Thanks.
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Originally Posted by believer
I think we find out about an affair our immediate reaction is to either "get out" in anger or "let's work it out" & nothing in between. I think we are in such shock that this could really be happening to us that we loose sense of ourselves.
I immediately thought - "what's wrong with me" - how could he love someone else? what does she have that I don't have?
I took the "let's work it out" mode & have been struggling to do that ever since. I have my doubts if I should have trusted again, especially when I was let down again. But I am a believer in "marriage" & feel that too many people throw in the towel too soon without really trying to work it out. Maybe I am stubborn in that way but I just don't think couples should give up as easily as it as accepted these days.
I think you made the right decision to try - I think you owe it to yourself & your husband. But something I have to remind myself is that the "relationship" didn't get to this stage overnight - there are many underlying issues involved & it'll take time to discover what those issues are & what went wrong.
I believe it is worth "trying" & not giving up hope so soon.
wishing you the best of luck - looks like you posted back in jan - so I am sure a lot has happened since then.
it would be nice to hear a success story amongst so many not so many sucesses.
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