Re: Still not over it
Swedish~
I worried about him shutting down too. He really thought he was just sharing his day with me so when I went off about the convervsation he felt he should have kept it to himself. After we discussed it in out therapy session a lot of good points were raised and I think he will continue to be open with me. I know he's reluctant but I think he's starting to understand that the only way to rebuild the trust is the remain honest and open. However, I also have to learn to control my reactions and not "blow up" at him when ever he shares something with me. It's hard for me because I've been attack mode since the affair, but I'm learing to control my emotions. He thought by keeping things from me he was protecting my feelings. I think he understands that in order to move past this everything has to continue to be open with me.
Swedish to piggy back off what Draconis said, continue to tell him when something is troubling you and try to convey your feelings as calmly as you possibly can.
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