guiness

My husband is irritating me. When it comes to money, we usually split things up. He works as a contractor so sometimes there are weeks at a time where things are very slow.

I work full-time and am starting a business. When things are slow, he has no problem spending all of my money, however, doesn’t help me much with my business. There are plenty of things he could do, but just doesn’t. I mean, he will do a couple things here and there, pass a few business cards out, but that’s about it.

This pisses me off and I feel like I’m being taken advantage off. He says we “are one” so has access to everything of mine and vice versa. That’s fine. It just pisses me off when he has a month off so I’m paying for everything AND not getting any help from him.

If he would help me out with the business, clearly I wouldn’t mind paying for everything. But this just pisses me off. I tell him this, but he continues to do everything the way he has been doing it.

I wonder if we should separate all the money and split everything equally and just basically say screw you when he has no money. Then, I feel I would be paying ½ the bills and the other half just wouldn’t be paid. This is so irritating. I don’t want to feel like a mother to him. I don’t want to make him do anything. However, I don’t like getting a call from him at the beach after he’s had a month off as I’m working reminding me to pay the rent.