iRachel

Sabrina Blue,

Amen sister!

Girlygirl, she just wrote pretty much what I was going to write. The LAST people to think/say you are weak are the people at the Women's Shelter. They would never make you feel bad. They will only support you and help you. Just call. See what they say. Most people, including your 'friends' and maybe even family and people at work will just say, "buck up, it's not that bad", or "If you really wanted out, you'd just leave". Well you know it's not that easy! There is rampant denial about domestic violence. Women are still thought of as second class citizens. Even a lot of women think it, tho they don't know it.

You are in the Cycle of Abuse. That's what it's called. It's a real thing. And I am alarmed that he made you delete your friend. Not surprised but alarmed. It was inevitable. Tell me, when you got married did he move you away from your family? Does he ever let your friends come over and hang out? Does he let you go out and hang out with your friends? All that is part of the cycle. He is isolating you from your support. He has already started to make you feel worthless, insecure, scared... The only way this will stop is for you to leave. Secretly leave. The incidence of women getting killed is when they try and leave and when they are pregnant. No ****. Pregnant. He'll kill you both.

Please please please please just call. Just call.

And let me just say, you are not worthless or stupid or 'too emotional' or mouthy (you should hear me, I'm usually one of those 'mouthy friends' who my friends husbands hate because I won't stand still for any kind of boorish behavior.) If I were there I'd snatch you and your dog up out of that house. Of course it won't work until you are ready. DON'T believe his bullshi* and trust me, it's all bullshi*.

Read those articles SabrinaBlue posted. Google: wife killed by husband, or something similar. IT HAPPENS EVERY DAY.

Please call, Girlygirl. Just to ask them some questions.

Hugs, Rachel