Originally Posted by Wife30
I am not sure where in our relationship he decided it was ok to treat me like the enemy, or to speak to me like this.
When I call him on it he treats me like I am silly.
I understand people get grumpy - but this has become a constant thing. It's weekly. I go to bed sad, mad and hurt. He continues to claim that it's not any different than how I treat him so it's justified? We have the same fight - Over and over again.
This is not okay. It is, for you, a serious problem and he refuses to take into consideration the fact that his disrespect of you is taking its toll. You need to communicate with him in a way that he understands how bad the situation really is. I bet he doesn't see it from the outside. Unfortunately, ignorance or ego-centrism is not an acceptable excuse for his treatment of you.
Have you guys tried going to counseling? Have you read any books about how to communicate better in marriage? Is he under some kind of stress at work? Is your sex life suffering? Are either of you depressed? Do you both have sufficient time for your individual hobbies and interests? How are things between you when you're not arguing? Have you ruled out the possibility of infidelity?
The fact that you are frequently upset about this and that he refuses to deal with it signifies that it's a serious problem. You're right to be looking for resolution and a way to deal with it.