Originally Posted by sadwithouthim
I understand where justsolost is coming from and i understand what you are saying but it's not easy to always just move on. I've been trying for 15 months....when I think I'm there the next day I find myself upset and crying. How does one fully let go. I've tried keeping busy, exercising my ass off, reading recommended books, therapy, support groups...you name it. What's left? IDK....maybe I'm just nuts????
Im just saying sometimes its just hard to forget and give up on the person. I understand one needs to to get a life but sometimes one just can't do it. I believe time is the greatest healer combined with all those other things. Just a @#%$& getting there.
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Believe me, I too know firsthand how difficult it can be to let go. In fact I almost feel fortunate for the hurt she caused me because I was able to use the pain and anger to get me out of that limbo faster. I also understand time is a healer, I'm a year out and still have those sad moments sneak up on me where I just suddenly collapse in hurt and bawl. However, in limbo the wound is still being inflicted, so time is not being used for healing its still just causing pain. Once he lets go and begins detaching then time will be to his advantage, but right now he is not doing himself favors. But he will move on when he's ready and there is nothing anyone can really do to make that decision for him, I'm just trying to reassure him that this shall pass.