swedish

I think taking things over financially will put you in that motherly role as you fear and cause you to resent him even more. It doesn't sound like you earning more money is the real issue. It sounds as though you resent him not working as hard as you. He wants the money to be pooled as if you are "one" but to really live as "one" you both need to tend to each other's needs. Tell him how you are feeling. Tell him you are overwhelmed and feeling unappreciated when you work full-time and are starting a business to better you both and he is not being supportive. Come up with some realistic ideas that would make you feel better...if he took temporary work during down times, took over paying the bills or whatever it is so that you can at least discuss it. I know some men in seasonal lines of work and it can be depressing for them when they are not working/providing because when they are working they are very dedicated and hard-working, so be sensitive to how he is during his time off as well.